Your Gifted Child: The Light at the End of the Tunnel

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Your Gifted Child: The Light at the End of the Tunnel

Raising a gifted child can be overwhelming. The intellectual pace, the emotional roller coasters, the social challenges all play a role in a parent’s self-doubt and exhaustion. Since people do not outgrow giftedness, must parents forever remain this dedicated to their child’s development? Many of our GHF Bloggers have been on the treadmill of gifted parenting, and have lived to tell the tale. A light does indeed exist at the end of the tunnel, and it’s not an oncoming train! Read how the struggles and hyper-focus of gifted parenting has led to passionate, involved, happy young adults.


light tunnel parentingA Light @ the End of the Tunnel: 2e ~ The Fringy Bit (Heather Boorman)

Parenting a differently wired child can bring some pretty dark days and it becomes easy to feel stuck in an unending tunnel without hope. But, I promise you . . . there is a light at the end of it.


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A Light @ the End of the Tunnel: A Gifted Social Life ~ The Fringy Bit (Heather Boorman)

I worried that he wouldn’t find his group. I worried that he’d be lonely and isolated. I worried that he’d spend so much time blending in with other kids that he’d lose his unique identity. And then. It happened. We saw the light.


light tunnel parentingA Light @ the End of the Tunnel: Homeschooling Gifted ~ The Fringy Bit (Heather Boorman)

It has happened fairly regularly over the past several years. My I’m-not-doing-enough-and-failing-my-kids-and-what-the-heck-was-I-thinking-when-I-decided-to-homeschool freakout. But thankfully, I'm beginning to see the light.


light tunnel parentingA Long and Winding Road ~ Laughing at Chaos (Jen Merrill)

There's a light at the end of the tunnel, and it's illuminating the past 17 years. What I see by its glow is painful moments interwoven with times of great improvement and promise. I see events that tried our very souls and others that carried them to heights never imagined.


light tunnel parentingA Tunnel and the Light at the End of It ~ Free Learning (Julie Uzelac Schneider)

 My children are mere elementary schoolers but we have come to the light at the end of a tunnel. It is among the first tunnels we've traversed as a family and deserves a small celebration. It is the story of how a gifted child learned to read..."late."


light tunnel parentingCollege: The Chance to Find True Peers~ Your College Your Way (Lessa Scherrer)

 It's amazing how easy it is to make and keep friends when you finally find your tribe. Many gifted students struggle with finding true peers: kids their age and ability level who also share their same interests. But finally reaching college can be a light at the end of the tunnel. College can be a pool of true peers, and future friends.


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The Days are Long, but the Years . . .A Light @ the End of the Tunnel: A Gifted Social Life ~ GHF Blog (Eleen Kamas)

As my older children head off to their classes or their jobs that they sought out and got by themselves (without my prodding or help), I see that my job will soon be over, even as I help smooth over a disagreement between my youngest two in the other room. All too soon, they will be heading out the door to their own classes, their own jobs, their own lives. And I’ll sit back and cherish those endless days during those too short years.


light tunnel parentingHow to Raise a Gifted Child Without Losing Your Ever-Loving Mind ~ Not So Formulaic (Ginny Kochis)

Constant daydreams. Missed assignments. Obsessions. Questions. Lost sleep. Raising a gifted child can be a perilous, mind-boggling process, but you can launch them with a successful skill set, as long as you have systems in place.


light tunnel parentingMy Gifted Child: Reaching the Light at the End of the Tunnel ~ Crushing Tall Poppies (Celi Trepanier)

Yes, you wonder at every step, at every stage, at every heartbreak and with each triumph—will there be that light at the end of the tunnel? A light that will give you the signal that, yes, mom and dad, your gifted child is going to be just fine.


light tunnel parentingTrusting the Unschooling Process for Gifted Learners: Getting to the Light at the End of The Tunnel ~ Help My Child Thrive (Teresa Currivan)

 It takes a lot of trust to get to the light at the end of the tunnel. When we let go of the traditional school system, we are agreeing to trust our children’s innate drive to learn, the gifted experts, and the experiences of others - adults who have been through it, the parents working their way through, and especially the voices of our own children.


light tunnel parentingWeathering rough times: The highs and lows of raising a gifted child ~ Gifted Challenges (Gail Post)

Raising a gifted child can be dazzling. Yet, all that gifted intensity can be difficult. It keeps you guessing. It creates frustration and angst. Your patience is pushed to the limit. Sometimes it seems like there is no end in sight.



Resources for Parenting Gifted Kids and Teens

living with gifted children

Living with gifted kids isn't always easy. Giftedness is not just test scores or academic achievement. It's not all difficulties, either. Jokes about duct tape and soundproof closets aside, it can be helpful to understand what your child is feeling, how they are developing, and what they were thinking when they asked that unusual question or performed that dangerous experiment alone out in the shed (and how do you explain the damage to your neighbors?). After all, not all children are gifted and  all gifted children do not learn alike. These kids are asynchronous, intense, and endlessly fascinating to live with. Sometimes their giftedness may be easy to communicate to others in the community, but sometimes it's hidden by twice exceptional (2e) issues or by the expanded complexity of race and culture (Gifted Cubed). Having a gifted or 2e teenager can add a whole new layer of complication to parenting. Additional resources here give some perspective to those of us raising such children and reassure us that we are not alone and it will all turn out well!


Don't miss these topical books from GHF Press:

Forging PathsForging Paths: Beyond Traditional Schooling

by Wes Beach

Traditional schooling may not provide your son or daughter with a satisfactory or fulfilling education. In Forging Paths: Beyond Traditional Schooling, you’ll read the stories of nine young people who took varying, nontraditional educational paths and succeeded in their chosen endeavors and vocations. Wes Beach, director of an unusual private high school, speaker, and author, prompts you to reconsider the idea that any highly successful career path must involve piling up gold stars in high school to gain immediate admission to a prestigious university in order to earn a degree which can cost more than most people earn in a year. Discover how passion, persistence, creativity and perseverance can lead to a life of satisfaction and even some traditional achievements!


If This is a Gift Can I Send it Back - New Book by Jen Merrill

If This is a Gift, Can I Send it Back?: Surviving in the Land of the Gifted and Twice-Exceptional

by Jen Merrill

When is life like a prize fight, a garden, and a quiz show, all hurtling down the road on an office chair, wrapped in song? When you’re living in the land of the gifted and twice exceptional. Jen Merrill, author of the Laughing at Chaos blog, brings laughter, tears, and honesty to her latest book by GHF Press, If This is a Gift, Can I Send it Back?: Surviving in the Land of the Gifted and Twice Exceptional. Join Jen on her journey through discovery, understanding, and acceptance, as she copes with the challenges that only the gifted and twice exceptional can create. So, pull up a chair, pour a glass of wine, and start reading. You’ll swear Jen’s written about you!


GHF also offers resources for understanding your gifted/2e child's social needs and finding community for yourself and for your child. Check out our online classes, where kids make friends and gain mentors. Dear GHF also answers questions about


FREE Downloadable Brochures:
The Healthcare Providers’ Guide to Gifted Children
The Educators’ Guide to Gifted Children
Twice Exceptional—Smart Kids with Learning Differences
Gifted Cubed -- The Expanded Complexity of Race & Culture

What is a Blog Hop?

A Blog Hop is a way to discover and follow blogs, as well as share your own. Every month or two, we pose a topic, our blogging members discuss it, and we link to their posts. GHF blog hops include bloggers from around the world, all of them committed to articulating the unique concerns, needs, and perspectives of gifted/2e families, especially (but not exclusively) those who choose non-traditional education for their kids.

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