Revisiting 2E Issues
The issues that come with giftedness and twice-exceptionality never really disappear.
We all need refresher courses on how to best support and cope with gifted and 2e issues.
Learn how to create an environment where the gifted/2e people in your life can thrive.
2e: All I Can Do Is Scream ~ The Fringy Bit (Heather Boorman)
The next time my 2e daughter screams at me because I’m not understanding her, I will remember ALS. I will remember Steve Gleason looking into the camera, tears of rage, but eyes filled with so many thoughts, and his words, “All I can do is scream!”
2e: Hiding In Plain View ~ Homeschooling 2E (Mary Paul)
Twice exceptional kids are often invisible and under-identified. When disabilities or behavioral issues are readily apparent, they may not get the support and challenges that they need as gifted students. What if we took a radical approach to our educational system and rethought how to teach these kids who don't fit in the neat little educational boxes?
A Mile in His Shoes ~ Teach Your Own (Lori Dunlap)
He tried to hide it, ducking his head quickly as I walked into the room, but I had already seen his face. He was crying, again, and didn't want me to see.
So I pretended for a moment that I hadn't, moving through the room and tidying things here and there as I debated whether or not to say something.
What could I say that hadn't already been said many times before? What can a mother do when her child is struggling, and she doesn't know how to make it better?
Embracing the Journey of Parenting a 2e Child ~ Sallie Borrink Learning (Sallie Borrink)
Our journey is not going to look like the typical parenting journey. This includes schooling choices, curriculum choices, extra-curricular choices, church choices, discipline choices, friendship choices, and (I suspect) higher education choices.
My daughter's path through childhood and young adulthood isn't going to look anything like mine or my husband's.
And I thankfully reached the point where I am totally fine with that.
Our Crazy Normal of Twice-Exceptionality ~ Gluten-Free Mum (Kathleen Humble)
Outliers. Sometimes, I forget that may kids are way out there at the margins.
It's so easy for me to forget what 'normal' looks like, or to forget the assumptions usually made about the innate range of abilities of most children.
In my friend-circles, I clap, cheer and cry when other families have their child engaging in conversation for the first time after months of therapy, or get excited when another family talk about the crazy conversation they had with their primary-schooler on infinity and prime numbers.
My crazy-normal has become very . . . skewed.
Please, Not a Meltdown in the Middle of Costco!: Living With a 2e Child ~ A 2E Fox Revived (Carolyn Fox)
When your 2e 11-year-old son has a meltdown in the middle of Costco, it is awful. Instantly, it feels like everyone is starting at you and making judgments. How can I have a child who is so intense, so extreme and yet so bright, and so sensitive, loving and caring?
She Brought Me Peanut Butter and Banana: The Gift of Twice Exceptional Children ~ Not So Formulaic (Ginny Kochis)
I know what it's like. I've removed my ten year old from a bounce house birthday party by force. I've hoisted my writhing six year old across my shoulders, slogging half a mile up a crowded beach in desperation. I've been accused of child abuse while my two year old melted down in a big box store.
I know what it's like. But I'm here to tell you - it gets better. And they bring you peanut butter and banana.
The Danger of Ignorance is Broken Children ~ Preschool Engineer (Julie Uzelac Schneider)
My 2e Autistic child has suffered injury because of the unique way he moves through the world. Most importantly, the way his giftedness (verbally precocious) fools his caregivers into having unreasonable expectations has resulted in a broken arm and a broken heart (dangerously close to depression). The following stories are my plead to therapists, teachers, and other caregivers to take a step back and consider “bad” behavior by 2e kids as a desperate call for help. Each story is also a cautionary tale to parents."
Twelve Years of Twice-Exceptional ~ Laughing at Chaos (Jen Merrill)
Life has gotten so much better over the last 12 years, it really has; any decade old post on this site proves that. The struggles have brought us closer, but my god it is still hard. It is demanding and thankless and exhausting, but it's the only parenting life I know. But you know what? This wildly different is perfectly normal life is all mine, and after twelve years I'm finally embracing the weird it has brought to my life.
Resources for Understanding Twice Exceptionality
Giftedness is not just test scores or academic achievement. Twice exceptional children are both gifted and have learning differences, resulting in an extreme asynchrony that can increase parenting challenges exponentially. Some of these exceptionalities may include autism or Asperger's Syndrome; auditory and visual processing issues; dyslexia and dysgraphia; sensory integration dysfunction; ADD or ADHD; bipolar disorder; OCD; Tourette's Syndrome; and myriad other dual diagnoses. Some families have found ways to deal with the challenges in their family that make their homes run relatively smoothly; others describe their family lives as akin to "the bar scene from Star Wars." Sometimes their giftedness may be easy to communicate to others in the community, but sometimes it's hidden by twice exceptional (2e) issues or by the expanded complexity of race and culture (Gifted Cubed). Having a gifted or 2e teenager can add a whole new layer of complication to parenting. Additional resources here give some perspective to those of us raising such children and reassure us that we are not alone.
Don't miss these topical books from GHF Press:
by Jen Merrill
When is life like a prize fight, a garden, and a quiz show, all hurtling down the road on an office chair, wrapped in song? When you’re living in the land of the gifted and twice exceptional. Jen Merrill, author of the Laughing at Chaos blog, brings laughter, tears, and honesty to her latest book by GHF Press, If This is a Gift, Can I Send it Back?: Surviving in the Land of the Gifted and Twice Exceptional. Join Jen on her journey through discovery, understanding, and acceptance, as she copes with the challenges that only the gifted and twice exceptional can create. So, pull up a chair, pour a glass of wine, and start reading. You’ll swear Jen’s written about you!
Parents of asynchronous children are often criticized as "helicopter parents" for being overly involved in their child's social development; others take a hands-off approach out of fear or self-doubt. In this book, Corin Barsily Goodwin and Mika Gustavson, authors of Making the Choice: When Typical School Doesn’t Fit Your Atypical Child, have turned their focus from finding the right academic environment for your child to exploring what we need to know and how we know when we are doing too much or too little to create age- and intellectually appropriate social opportunities for our children. Includes explanations of Dabrowski's Overexcitabilities, stages of friendship, and how to address conflict with others in a variety of situations.
What would make a dedicated public school teacher decide to homeschool her own children? In her new book, Educating Your Gifted Child: How One Public School Teacher Embraced Homeschooling, Celi Trépanier (Crushing Tall Poppies) shares her journey from a top teacher in traditional schools to a disillusioned parent struggling to get an appropriate and challenging education for her gifted sons. How is the current educational system failing our gifted and twice-exceptional students? How can parents fight for the education their children need and deserve? What options do parents and their gifted children have? Celi addresses these concerns and more in Educating Your Gifted Child.
Past Blog Hops
- When Homeschooling Your Gifted Child Becomes a Drag: My Best Tips
- Navigating Family Life When Gifted Traits Collide
- Gifted Children and The Role of Mentors
- Gifted Children: Academic and Career Planning Beyond K-12
- Gifted Children: The Importance of Finding Intellectual Peers and Community
- Choosing Extracurricular Activities for Gifted Children with Overexcitabilities in Mind
- Preparing for Their Future: Parenting Gifted Teens and Tweens
- Gifted 2E Kids: What Makes Them Twice-Exceptional
- Recognizing Giftedness in Our Children and Ourselves
- Loving the Unexpected Gifts of Giftedness
- Educating Gifted Children: The Many Ways We Approach Their Learning
- The Highs and Lows of Gifted Parenting
- Discovering the Depth and Breadth of Giftedness
- Parenting Gifted/2E Kids on a Shoestring
- Bullying Across the Gifted/2e Lifespan
- Perfectionism and Other Gifted/2E Quirks
- Gifted at Different Ages & Stages
- A Day in the Life of a Gifted Homeschooler
- How Do You Say “Gifted”?
- Gifted in Reel Life
- End of Year Blogger Wrap Up!
- The Most Popular Posts on Giftedness in 2014
- Parenting OEs, 2Es and Everything in Between
- Finding Your Community
- Gifted Grown Ups
- Gifted Parenting
- Special Tips, Toys, Tricks, & Tools for Parenting & Educating Gifted/2E
- Promoting Health and Wellness in the Gifted/2E Child
- Homeschooling & Parenting Gifted/2E Kids into the Teens (and Beyond)
- Staying Motivated throughout the Homeschool Year
- Surviving & Thriving at the Holidays with a Gifted/2E Kid
- Homeschooling a Gifted/2e Kid
- Sleep and Other Forms of Parental Self-Care
- Homeschooling: Where and How to Begin
- Homeschooling with/without a Partner
- Stealth Schooling
FREE Downloadable Brochures:
The Healthcare Providers’ Guide to Gifted Children
The Educators’ Guide to Gifted Children
Twice Exceptional—Smart Kids with Learning Differences
Gifted Cubed -- The Expanded Complexity of Race & Culture