When Did You First Realize Your Child Was Gifted/2E/Different?
Many parents realize early on that something is different about their child. The child races through typical milestones, reading early, talking early, asking complex questions, and generally outpacing her agemates. Other parents learn much later that their child is gifted, as learning disabilities and other challenges hid the giftedness. Just as giftedness doesn’t look the same in every child, every family’s journey toward learning and accepting that their child is gifted or twice-exceptional differs. Our GHF Bloggers share their stories of realizing their child was gifted/2e/different. While similarities exist, the differences are fascinating.
6 Signs Your Preschooler May Be Gifted and Why It’s Important to Know ~ Help My Child Thrive (Teresa Currivan)
Finding out my child was gifted when he was in second grade, and understanding what that really meant was like having all of the pieces of a confusing and even traumatizing mess suddenly fall into place. Life isn't always easy now, but it is clear, and my son is doing a lot better. What I hope is for families to be able to identify their children earlier, so that they can avoid the traumatizing part.
From a Bus Ride in China to Graduating College ~ BJ's Homeschool (Betsy Sproger)
It was clear that our daughter was very intelligent as a young one but we did not know that she was gifted until much later. Yet there was actually a light bulb moment early on.... We were in China, having just received our 11 month old from her orphanage, and were all on a long bus ride together, going from one government office to another.
Most of the other babies were crying as you would expect....with brand new parents to deal with and a long bumpy bus ride. They were crying...but what was our baby doing?????
Is Your Child Twice-Exceptional? 4 Simple Ways to Find Out, and Why You Absolutely Need to Know. ~ Not So Formulaic (Ginny Kochis)
She's a puzzle. So much ability but a total mess at school.
She has trouble making friends. Can't stay in her seat in the classroom. Can't remember how to tie her shoes.
Chances are, you've got a Twice Exceptional child. Here's how to see it, and why you need to know.
Sliding Under The Radar ~ Homeschooling 2e (Mary Paul)
My daughter is smart, but not drastically. She's academically ahead, but not amazingly so. She's fairly average socially, with no major delays or issues. What she does have is emotional and imaginational overexcitabilities. Lots and lots of them! So when, exactly, did I become convinced that she is gifted? I'm not sure. It's been a gradual process, stuttering and stopping with a lot of "maybe that's just normal?"
The Moment I Knew ~ The Fringy Bit (Heather Boorman)
It’s a long, hard road to see that something’s different with your child. The giftedness I could see. I understood that. I accepted that. The other exceptionalities? I didn’t want to see it. I wanted it to be a phase. I wanted it to be intense emotions that, with help, would learn to be regulated. I wanted it to simply be an intensified version of typical development. It wasn't.
This one is for the young parents ~ Laughing at Chaos (Jen Merrill)
So, my dear young parents, keep your eyes open. If you have a precocious youngun, it's may not be just your imagination. Your kid absolutely will show signs of quirkiness and giftedness long before they begin their educational journey.
Twice-Exceptional in Plain Sight: We Missed It ~ Gluten-Free Mum (Kathleen Humble)
When did we first realize our kids were gifted and disabled (Twice-exceptional)? Well, frankly, for a long time, we didn't.
- When my son held his head up in the hospital. We missed it.
- When the nurses commented on how alert he was. We missed it.
- When my son quickly settled into an older awake pattern. We missed it.
- When he quickly developed a love of books. We missed it.
Upside Down ~ Free Learning (Julie Schneider)
It wasn't under his developmental pediatrician asked, "Does he always do this?" that I realized that Tigger's way of being upside down was out-of-the-ordinary. Then I realized all the ways this child had been upside down...
Living with Gifted Children
Let's face it, living with gifted and 2e children is complicated. Jokes about duct tape and soundproof closets aside, it can be helpful to understand what your child is feeling, how they are developing, and what they were thinking when they asked that unusual question or performed that dangerous experiment alone out in the shed (and how do you explain the damage to your neighbors?). These kids are asynchronous, intense, and endlessly fascinating to live with.
As you know, giftedness is not just test scores or academic achievement.Not all children are gifted and all gifted children do not learn alike. Sometimes their giftedness may be easy to communicate to others in the community, but sometimes it's hidden by twice exceptional (2e) issues or by the expanded complexity of race and culture (Gifted Cubed). Having a gifted or 2e teenager can add a whole new layer of complication to parenting. But you're not alone! Additional resources here give some perspective to those of us raising such children and reassure us that we are not alone.
Don't miss these topical books from GHF Press:
A concise guidebook for parents considering their educational choices, Making the Choice discusses how to balance the emotional and academic needs of gifted and 2e children, their parents, and their families. In Making the Choice, Corin Barsily Goodwin, Executive Director of Gifted Homeschoolers Forum, and Mika Gustavson, MFT, demystify and de-mythify some of the perceived barriers to homeschooling and other alternatives. For those families wondering if alternative education is an option they should consider, Making the Choice offers ideas, guidance, and encouragement to fully evaluate the option.
What would make a dedicated public school teacher decide to homeschool her own children? In her new book, Educating Your Gifted Child: How One Public School Teacher Embraced Homeschooling, Celi Trépanier (Crushing Tall Poppies) shares her journey from a top teacher in traditional schools to a disillusioned parent struggling to get an appropriate and challenging education for her gifted sons. How is the current educational system failing our gifted and twice-exceptional students? How can parents fight for the education their children need and deserve? What options do parents and their gifted children have? Celi addresses these concerns and more in Educating Your Gifted Child.
GHF also offers resources for understanding your gifted/2e child's social needs and finding community for yourself and for your child. Check out our online classes, where kids make friends and gain mentors. Dear GHF also answers questions about
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- Why Is High-Achieving Synonymous with Being Gifted?
- The Invisible Gifted Child: Mislabeled, Misdiagnosed, Unidentified and Misunderstood
- Uniquely Gifted:The Different Areas of Giftedness
- Happiest Homeschooling Moments: Personal Stories, Inspiration and Tips
- Gifted Children: Transitioning Between Public School and Homeschool
- Discipline and Your Gifted Child
- Gifted and Twice-Exceptional: Revisiting 2E Issues
- When Did You First Realize Your Child Was Gifted/2E/Different?
- The Difficulties of Being Gifted
- Your Gifted Child: The Light at the End of the Tunnel
- When Homeschooling Your Gifted Child Becomes a Drag: My Best Tips
- Navigating Family Life When Gifted Traits Collide
- Gifted Children and The Role of Mentors
- Gifted Children: Academic and Career Planning Beyond K-12
- Gifted Children: The Importance of Finding Intellectual Peers and Community
- Choosing Extracurricular Activities for Gifted Children with Overexcitabilities in Mind
- Preparing for Their Future: Parenting Gifted Teens and Tweens
- Gifted 2E Kids: What Makes Them Twice-Exceptional
- Recognizing Giftedness in Our Children and Ourselves
- Loving the Unexpected Gifts of Giftedness
- Educating Gifted Children: The Many Ways We Approach Their Learning
- The Highs and Lows of Gifted Parenting
- Discovering the Depth and Breadth of Giftedness
- Parenting Gifted/2E Kids on a Shoestring
- Bullying Across the Gifted/2e Lifespan
- Perfectionism and Other Gifted/2E Quirks
- Gifted at Different Ages & Stages
- A Day in the Life of a Gifted Homeschooler
- How Do You Say “Gifted”?
- Gifted in Reel Life
- End of Year Blogger Wrap Up!
- The Most Popular Posts on Giftedness in 2014
- Parenting OEs, 2Es and Everything in Between
- Finding Your Community
- Gifted Grown Ups
- Gifted Parenting
- Special Tips, Toys, Tricks, & Tools for Parenting & Educating Gifted/2E
- Promoting Health and Wellness in the Gifted/2E Child
- Homeschooling & Parenting Gifted/2E Kids into the Teens (and Beyond)
- Staying Motivated throughout the Homeschool Year
- Surviving & Thriving at the Holidays with a Gifted/2E Kid
- Homeschooling a Gifted 2e Kid
- Sleep and Other Forms of Parental Self-Care
- Homeschooling: Where and How to Begin
- Homeschooling with/without a Partner
- Stealth Schooling