Does your gifted or 2e child have enough friends? What qualifies as “enough”? Whom should they be friends with and how can they keep those friends? Does age matter? We want our children to have fulfilling social lives, but many of our kids already struggle to find people with the same esoteric interests. How are they to cultivate deep, meaningful friendships? What role should parents and other caring adults play in these social interactions?
Parents of asynchronous children are often criticized as "helicopter parents" for being overly involved in their child's social development; others take a hands-off approach out of fear or self-doubt. In this book, Corin Barsily Goodwin and Mika Gustavson, authors of Making the Choice: When Typical School Doesn’t Fit Your Atypical Child, have turned their focus from finding the right academic environment for your child to exploring what we need to know and how we know when we are doing too much or too little to create age- and intellectually appropriate social opportunities for our children. Includes explanations of Dabrowski's Overexcitabilities, stages of friendship, and how to address conflict with others in a variety of situations.
Check out Corin's Amazon Author Central page at https://www.amazon.com/author/coringoodwin.
Table of Contents
- Prologue: Pre-Production
- Chapter 1: Backdrop: What You Should Know About the Gifted Child
- Who is the gifted child?
- Asynchronous Development
- Twice Exceptionalities
- Intensity and Dabrowski's Overexcitabilities (OEs)
- Psychomotor OE
- Sensual OE
- Imaginational OE
- Intellectual OE
- Emotional OE
- Introversion and Extraversion
- Unusual Interests
- Chapter 2: Setting the Scene: Friendship and the Gifted Child
- Developmental Stages of Friendship
- The Need to Belong
- Impact of Loneliness and Feeling "Other" on Social Interactions
- Chapter 3: Casting: Finding the Other Players
- What does my child want?
- Is what my child wants consistent with abilities, limitations, and societal expectations?
- Are my child's expectations of social interactions realistic?
- Why is it so hard to find a good social environment for my child?
- Finding Other Players
- Finding Mentors
- Identify Your Goals
- Do Your Homework
- Reach Out and Touch Someone
- Attend a Meeting or Event
- Overcoming Skepticism
- Skepticism from mentor or teacher
- Skepticism from different-age kids
- Other parents' skepticism
- Parents skeptical about you
- Unbalanced Relationships
- Geography: Will Travel (Literally and Virtually) for Friends
- Chapter 4: Directing: The Parent as Guide
- Teaching Cultural Literacy
- Dealing with Authorities
- Chapter 5: Showtime: Applying What You Know
- Stage Fright: Yours and Theirs
- What should I do when...
- How do I know if...
- Making Your Entrance
- Method Acting (and how homeschooling can help)
- Fake it 'til you make it
- Stage Fright: Yours and Theirs
- Chapter 6: Reviews: Raspberries and Applause
- The Gifted and 2e Socialization Question
- The Homeschool Socialization Question
- The "Get with the Program" Question
- Epilogue: Take a Bow
- About the Authors
BJ's Homeschool Encouragement
I so wish this book had been published when I was raising my daughter, as it gives helpful, and very specific advice to encourage and guide your gifted child's social development. . . . My daughter is in college now, and I found that many of the ideas in this book still apply to her as she navigates friendships as a young adult. Read more.
Lisa Conrad, Moderator, Global #gtchat Powered by TAGT
"So often, age-peers do not share interests with these kids due to asynchronous development and the less cited fact that true peers are scarce. . . . So, what role should parent’s play in their gifted/2E kids’ friendships?" Read more.
Madeline Goodwin, Madeline's Musings
"It felt like a key had turned for me – so THAT’S why I never quite fit in! Not only did I finally understand where things were going wrong, but it helped me figure out why, and what I could and couldn’t do to fix it." Read more.
Pamela Price, Red, White & Grew
"What sets this book apart, however, from others in the genre is the warm, frank talk about the need to make bold choices—even those that run counter to cultural conventions or personal preferences." Read more.
Jade Rivera, JadeAnnRivera.com
"I particularly recommend Writing Your Own Script to parents with younger gifted or 2e children. This book gives you a peek into your future, so you can get out ahead of it. It’s a virtual crystal ball." Read more.
Kathleen Humble, Gluten-Free Mum
"I really enjoyed the step-by-step-ness of some of the chapters that walked me though how to handle, say, finding a mentor, or navigating through the sometimes fraught friendship struggles of kids who are different – and clash in unusual ways." Read more.
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