Navigating Family Life When Gifted Traits Collide. Giftedness comes with intensities, high needs, and special needs. Activities and moments other families take for granted can become a planning nightmare when a gifted child, or two, is involved. Conflicting needs can lead to strained relationships between siblings and parents. How can families manage the various needs giftedness brings to the table, while creating a closer family, and maybe even while having fun? Learn from the GHF Bloggers who have managed to walk this path and come out stronger and happier.
Embracing Intense Family Life ~ The Fringy Bit (Heather Boorman)
Giftedness tends to come with intense ways of living life. And when you have several gifted people in one home - these intensities can collide. So, what can we do? How do we make this collision of intensity simply pipe-bomb sized as opposed to nuclear?
Giftedness and Family Relationships ~ Sallie Borrink Learning (Sallie Borrink)
Giftedness can have a significant impact on family dynamics. If there is more than one gifted person in the family, this can mean that you have multiple people with specific needs that may not always fit together well. This has been the case in our family and we've had to figure out how to effectively navigate the various individual needs.
Navigating Family Life When Overexcitabilities Collide
~ Laugh Love Learn (Lucinda Leo)
In gifted families, one child's need to express their intensity all-too-often clashes with another's need for peace. Traditional parenting punishes 'anti-social' behaviour, but gifted kids can no more easily turn off their intensity than their sensitivity.
In her post Lucinda offers an alternative approach, showing how we can help our children to develop the powerful and resilient attitude psychologists call an 'internal locus of control'.
Rock Your Family Life and Raise Awesome Gifted Kids ~ Raising Lifelong Learners (Colleen Kessler)
When there are outliers under your roof, days are anything but typical, and sometimes it's tough to feel like you've got it together at all. You're not alone -- here are a few simple ways to turn the gifted family dynamic around so you can rock your family life and enjoy your quirky kids.
When Family Overexcitabilities Collide ~ Homeschooling 2e (Mary Paul)
At our house, we havea lot of trouble with overexcitabilties colliding. Here's a brief look at what life is like with 5 gifted individuals in our young family, and a few tips and tricks that help us navigate life, stay sane, and tolerate each other.
When What Matters to Her Doesn’t Matter (As Much) to Him ~ Preschool Engineering (Julie Uzelac Schneider)
It is not that he is indifferent to her. It is that he has a different “love language” than she does. What matters to her doesn’t matter as much to him. And the way those differences manifest in our lives deserves a little attention, if only because if I understand the differences then I can be a better parent and, together, we will learn all the ways to express and receive love.
Let's face it, living with gifted and 2e children is complicated.
Jokes about duct tape and soundproof closets aside, it can be helpful to understand what your child is feeling, how they are developing, and what they were thinking when they asked that unusual question or performed that dangerous experiment alone out in the shed (and how do you explain the damage to your neighbors?). These kids are asynchronous, intense, and endlessly fascinating to live with. The articles here give some perspective to those of us raising such children and reassure us that we are not alone.
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When is life like a prize fight, a garden, and a quiz show, all hurtling down the road on an office chair, wrapped in song? When you’re living in the land of the gifted and twice exceptional. Jen Merrill, author of the Laughing at Chaos blog, brings laughter, tears, and honesty to her latest book by GHF Press, If This is a Gift, Can I Send it Back?: Surviving in the Land of the Gifted and Twice Exceptional. Join Jen on her journey through discovery, understanding, and acceptance, as she copes with the challenges that only the gifted and twice exceptional can create. So, pull up a chair, pour a glass of wine, and start reading. You’ll swear Jen’s written about you!
Parents of asynchronous children are often criticized as "helicopter parents" for being overly involved in their child's social development; others take a hands-off approach out of fear or self-doubt. In this book, Corin Barsily Goodwin and Mika Gustavson, authors of Making the Choice: When Typical School Doesn’t Fit Your Atypical Child, have turned their focus from finding the right academic environment for your child to exploring what we need to know and how we know when we are doing too much or too little to create age- and intellectually appropriate social opportunities for our children. Includes explanations of Dabrowski's Overexcitabilities, stages of friendship, and how to address conflict with others in a variety of situations.
Gifted kids, with their often asynchronous development, eclectic interests, and intense emotions, can be prime targets for bullying. What can compassionate parents, friends, and educators do to help these kids rise above the bullying and become emotionally stronger and more self-assured?
In her second book, Gifted, Bullied, Resilient: A Brief Guide for Smart Families, author Pamela Price draws upon her experience as a journalist and gifted parenting advocate to provide concerned adults with a plan of action. She introduces readers to contemporary research, an array of social learning best practices, real-life anecdotes from veteran parents, and select resources relevant to the families of bullied gifted kids and adolescents. The slender, informative, and insightful text is geared both toward parents of public and private school students, as well as homeschoolers in cooperative learning environments.
Past Blog Hops
- Gifted Children and The Role of Mentors
- Gifted Children: Academic and Career Planning Beyond K-12
- Gifted Children: The Importance of Finding Intellectual Peers and Community
- Choosing Extracurricular Activities for Gifted Children with Overexcitabilities in Mind
- Preparing for Their Future: Parenting Gifted Teens and Tweens
- Gifted 2E Kids: What Makes Them Twice-Exceptional
- Recognizing Giftedness in Our Children and Ourselves
- Loving the Unexpected Gifts of Giftedness
- Educating Gifted Children: The Many Ways We Approach Their Learning
- The Highs and Lows of Gifted Parenting
- Discovering the Depth and Breadth of Giftedness
- Parenting Gifted/2E Kids on a Shoestring
- Bullying Across the Gifted/2e Lifespan
- Perfectionism and Other Gifted/2E Quirks
- Gifted at Different Ages & Stages
- A Day in the Life of a Gifted Homeschooler
- How Do You Say “Gifted”?
- Gifted in Reel Life
- End of Year Blogger Wrap Up!
- The Most Popular Posts on Giftedness in 2014
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