What's it like parenting a gifted child? Sunshine and roses—punctuated with darkness and aphid infestations. All the joy you felt when you realized your child was gifted was quickly defused once you encountered the challenges of raising an outlier. Deep lows counter the extreme highs, making you and your child feel isolated and lost. But you are not alone. Read on to learn how our GHF bloggers have experienced and dealt with The Highs and Lows of Gifted Parenting.
A Boy's Dreams Come True On His 7th Birthday Celebration ~ Hands On Parent While Earning (Teresa Gumap-as Dumadag)
They have to believe in their ability to achieve." This was a line from the book Lasting Gifts You Can Give Your Children which I read last week. It was authored by Arun Gogna. Reading this part of the book made me smile because I know that I had been doing my best to help my children believe that they can achieve their dreams even when their dreams seem too big for their age.
I second guess myself most of the time. Am I doing a good job as a mother? Am I doing a good job as his homeschool teacher? Was that the right thing to do the other day? Why did I just do that? Why?
Little Lawyers ~ The Joy of Learning (Lisa B.)
I sometimes joke that lawyers should know better than to breed with one another -- the inevitable result is highly argumentative children who endlessly negotiate every single point. While it can be fascinating to watch reasoning and logic abilities develop from a young age, and it is sometimes enjoyable to engage in debates on interesting issues, it is probably the aspect of gifted parenting that I find the most challenging.
Living Intensely ~ Gifted Unschooling (Amy Harrington)
I try to stay positive in my outlook on life and parenting. I am an eternal optimist. Always have been. Everything happens for a reason and it is always to teach us a lesson and save us from something worse. I have cultivated this attitude for some time now. It works and it keeps me sane and peaceful. Until, life unfolds mocking my positive outlook because real life is slapping me in the face with intense children who espouse volatile emotional outbursts and this time it caught me underprepared. Peacefulness wanes when everyone is intense at the same time.
Twice-exceptionality can sometimes present as an average kid; the highs and lows mask each other. No such luck with this; the highs and lows of gifted parenting don't average out, they just give me whiplash.
The adjectives we use to describe our lives as parents of gifted children are often polar opposites which can conflict with each other, often in the same day, within the same moment. The analogies and aphorisms describe some sort of sanity-stealing life surging us up and then sucking us down, way down. Often. Daily. Hourly.
Ups and Downs, Gifted Parenting Style ~ Homeschooling Hatters (Care Martin)
Everyone has ups and downs. Every single one of us. What makes it so much more unusual when you're dealing with the gifted is the fact that we are, by nature, extremely intense. With apples not falling far from their trees, this usually means super intense children and their super intense parents, trying to function day after day.
I think I would sound crazy to anyone who didn't understand this conflicted life with gifted children and gifted parents. Until you've walked in these shoes, it sounds like faux bragging of the ridiculous sort. If you have walked in these shoes, however, you know exactly what I am talking about. On the most difficult days, when you really, really want to trade them in for some fancy heels, a cute new dress and a grown-up job where people appreciate you, you are just like me. And then you put the shoes back on, grab some coffee and feel so fortunate that these are your children, highs. lows and in between.
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